What kind of life do you want? For me, it’s trying to be proactive and not allowing precious opportunities to pass. It’s tough sometimes but it’s doable–that’s the essence of this article.

There is so much fear in life which prevents us from taking huge boundless steps, which keeps us stagnant and stuck in ‘candy mud’ (as my little girl would say) – quicksand if you prefer.

So many people wonder why their therapeutic growth has halted, or wonder why “I have been going to this therapist for so long and he/she just didn’t help me (fix me, cure me)!” This is a common theme I hear frequently. When I hear people say that their therapist isn’t helping them, I think 2 things: Either the therapist isn’t helping them, or the client/patient isn’t doing the work. When I delve in deeper to find out the barrier, I find that the client’s/patient’s fear is the hurdle to doing the work.

What is “the work?” After long discussions with my wife, Jenniffer who is a talented psychologist, I think the real work comes from being bold, scared and brave all at the same time. Think of yourself being bold enough to be standing at the edge of a diving board 50 feet off the ground over a body of water that you quite can’t tell how deep it is. You stand there scared, contemplating the jump and wondering: Am I going to drown?  Do I remember how to swim?  Once I land, will I be able to get out?  Will it hurt?  These are absolutely valid and normal fears and probably the same fears we face when a growth opportunity presents itself- just as if you were overcome by fear when asked to face your truths in a therapeutic environment (stepping right up to the edge of the board).  All too often, people back off of that diving board and climb back down the stairs wondering, “Why aren’t I getting any better?”

In this life, I have learned at least one thing:

There is no growth in complacency

Real moments of growth come from taking a brave leap of faith off that proverbial diving board, despite being scared, knowing with bold confidence that you can swim.

This is my goal and conscious choice.

What’s yours?

Originally written November 19, 2014

Written By. Michael Lewis, MD and posted on www.evolvingman.net

About the author

I am a Board Certified Family Practice Physician (MD) that has a passion for the proper treatment of patients. We are more than just our physical beings. We are complex and the current medical climate is failing both patients and physicians. As a new author, I feel passionately about letting everyone know how the system is failing us, moreover, how to overcome these barriers!
Michael Lewis, MD
I am board certified in family medicine and passionate about caring for the whole patient: mind, body, spirit. I am married to a wonderful woman Jenniffer, who is a clinical psychologist and works right here in Willow Medical Center. I have a 7-year-old daughter, Bailey who is the light of my life. I am a soul searcher for myself and others. I also love to help men reach their potential as a conscious male. I am also a musician/guitarist. I have found that nurturing this part of my brain helps me think out of the proverbial box and provide better medicine.